The One Thing You Need For Effective Self Care
Self Care – I know! – It’s something I bang on about a LOT! But that’s because I truly believe it’s important for your wellbeing and health. Plus it will allow you to live the life you desire without the stress and exhaustion – well, it will at least keep it to an absolute minimum.
But what is self care and how can you make sure it’s effective and meaningful?
The Oxford online dictionary defines self care as the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
I believe self care means taking responsibility for nourishing your mind, body and soul. It should be something you do consistently, not just when you’re stressed and exhausted and need some relief from what feels like the constant pressure you’re under.
If you incorporate self care rituals into your daily life you’ll cope much better with everyday pressures and extra stress when it arises. It’s the choices you make today, tomorrow, the next day, those cumulative choices, that will ensure long term wellbeing.
Please don’t beat yourself up if, at the moment, you’re not doing what you know fills you up. But if you’re feeling like you don’t have time for you then it’s likely that’s exactly what you need and it’s time to reassess your self care.
Self care is more than just a bubble bath or meditating daily. It’s not just a regular massage, a yearly retreat or an afternoon in nature. It can be all of these things and more! Or something completely different.
For me it’s regular massage and facials, daily essential oils, good books, music, hiking in nature, meditation, time with Andrew and my friends, and a glass of champagne + raw chocolate whenever I feel like it!
The thing is, you get to decide what self care is for you. It’s different for everyone.
But there is one thing that you absolutely must have for effective self care.
S E L F L O V E
Why is this so damn important?
Because without it, whatever you’re self care rituals are, they won’t be as meaningful.
If you’re doing this ‘self care thing’ because it’s what you ‘should’ be doing or what you’ve been told to do, it’s likely not coming from a place of love and care. You’ll be less likely to be consistent and more likely to self-sabotage.
Self care is not just another item on your to do list. It’s a non-negotiable that refills your mind, body and soul in a way nothing else can.
So when you put your self care rituals in place choose things that really do nurture and nourish your mind, body and soul. Make sure they are things that really fill you up and rejuvenate you on all levels.
And ask yourself…
why am I doing it?
Is it coming from a place of self love?
Am I really looking after me?
Do I really feel like I deserve to be looked after on a deep level?
These questions can be hard to answer. Grab a piece of paper or your journal and see what comes up.
The old cliche – you can’t love anybody else if you don’t love yourself – has become a cliche for a reason! Because it’s absolutely true.
I’m here to tell you – you are totally worth it!
Looking after you on a deep level, consistently, allows you not only to feel great but to be there more fully for those you love. You simply cannot give from an empty cup so keep yours overflowing.
Become your own best friend and treat yourself as such – with love.
I’d love to know your self care rituals. And let me know who you go with the journaling questions too!
Love and Peace, Dee xxx
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