How I Get Organised and Set Goals

How I Get Organised and Set Goals

Oh where to start?

I’m generally a very organised person in life as well as in my business. I’m one of those people who can’t think straight if things are a mess or even a little untidy!!! To me organisation equals calm. If things are tidy my mind has clarity and I can get on with things.

So I guess that’s where my organisation starts

I tidy up, declutter, get rid of stuff, put stuff away, clean. I give everything a place and make everything look and feel nice.

And that’s what I’ve been doing in every area of my life over the last couple of months.

You see in mid February I realised how damn tired I was after a very emotional year last year.

I’d had a big 2018 planning day at the end of last year but I actually hadn’t taken action on anything! Which isn’t like me at all. So I decided to take some time to rest and take the pressure off ‘doing’. I didn’t stop working in and on by business I just put aside my big 2018 to do list and deadlines I had set myself.

I let go. I took a little holiday. I reclalibrated.

Now I’m back – organised, energised and inspired!

Sometimes it’s important to take a step back. Sometimes that’s what you need. We don’t have to be achieving all the time.

As a result I’m changing up the way I do my planning. Here’s how it looks…

Instead of doing my major planning at the beginning of the year I’m now going to do it mid year, the beginning of the financial year. I’ll still do some new year planning as this always feels like a great time to review and reassess my goals and intentions in my business as well as my personal life. But this new timing for my planning makes sense for me right now in terms of my business.

The truth is you can do your planning at any time. I’m always doing mini reviews and updates to my goals and intentions.

If you’re feeling like this year is slipping away and you haven’t achieved any of your goals, it’s honestly not too late!

So let’s break it down.

Here’s how I do my annual planning and set goals…

I take a look at what I’ve done in the last 12 months and how I feel about those things.
Am I pleased? How can I improve? What did I learn?

I celebrate the wins and acknowledge the challenges and things I could have done better.

I think about what I’m loving and want to continue doing and also what I no longer desire in my life and business.

I choose a guiding word for the year ahead (I’ll keep this one for my new year intention setting). This year it’s COURAGE.

I set my goals and intentions for each area of my life – business and personal.

I write all this out as I believe it makes it more real to see it on paper. I have it to refer to and to inspire and remind me where I’m headed.

Then I plan out the steps it will take to achieve each goal. This may seem like a lot to do, but breaking each goal into steps makes it easy to work out how long each goal will take to reach and what help you may need to achieve it. I recommend you start with your top 3 goals first.

From here I work out a schedule of when I’m going to do things. I plan this out monthly and then I block out the time in my calendar.

Believe me when I say, if it’s not in your calendar it probably won’t happen. It’s also super important to treat these calendar appointments as you would any other appointment. You’re not going to cancel a doctors appointment so don’t cancel that appointment with yourself – keeping it means you’re one step closer to your goal.

And please remember to schedule time for YOU – we all need fun and relaxation to thrive. I also try to leave extra ‘catch up’ time in my calendar for when unexpected things pop up that impact my time – it gives me some breathing space and reduces my stress.

To make it all easier I have some useful resources that I love using…
  • I have a diary/planner with monthly and weekly layouts – I use this for keeping track of what I get done each day, my weekly to do list and a monthly overview of what’s going on in my business and personal life.
  • I have a journal for my intentions and goals, jotting down inspiration and ideas as they come to me plus lists galore – like books to read, podcasts, cafes, hiking trails etc etc etc.
  • And I have a notepad for meetings and general note taking.
  • I’ve just discovered a workbook that looks great – it’s the sort of thing I’d love to create and is very close to the process I use for my planning. It’s called the Artist Of Life Workbook. I’ve only just received it and have started using it this quarter so I’ll keep you updated on how that goes.
  • I also have a gorgeous pen along with this beautiful stationery – together they inspire me to create beautiful meaningful things. Yes kikki.K is one of my favorite shops!!!
  • Digitally I use iCal for my client and personal appointments and Evernote for taking notes on the go. I use Canva for designing social media posts. My iPhone and a Fuji X-A5 camera for taking videos and photos.

 

So that’s really it. It’s kinda simple but it does require ACTION.

ACTION – that’s the key to success. You can have the best, most exciting plans ever but without action they’re never going happen! Taking small steps consistently and knowing that big goals take time really helps to keep me on track.

And I also believe it’s really helpful to have an accountability buddy to check in with regularly, along with a coach or mentor to guide and support you.

Let’s recap the main points…

  • Declutter, tidy up and make your space a place you love to be in.
  • Write down your intentions and goals.
  • Plan and schedule the steps to get to each goal.
  • Include time for you (super important!).
  • Take consistent action.
  • Review, reassess and update regularly.
  • Use resources that inspire and support you.

 

I hope this has been helpful.

How do you get organised and plan your goals?

Share with me in the comments below or over in my private Facebook Group – maa living. I’m always looking out for new tips and tricks.

Love Dee xxx

The One Thing You Need For Effective Self Care

The One Thing You Need For Effective Self Care

Self Care – I know! – It’s something I bang on about a LOT! But that’s because I truly believe it’s important for your wellbeing and health. Plus it will allow you to live the live you desire without the stress and exhaustion – well, it will at least keep it to an absolute minimum.

But what is self care and how can you make sure it’s effective and meaningful?

The Oxford online dictionary defines self care as the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.

I believe self care means taking responsibility for nourishing your mind, body and soul. It should be something you do consistently, not just when you’re stressed and exhausted and need some relief from what feels like the constant pressure you’re under.

If you incorporate self care rituals into your daily life you’ll cope much better with everyday pressures and extra stress when it arises. It’s the choices you make today, tomorrow, the next day, those cumulative choices, that will ensure long term wellbeing.

Please don’t beat yourself up if, at the moment, you’re not doing what you know fills you up. But if you’re feeling like you don’t have time for you then it’s likely that’s exactly what you need and it’s time to reassess your self care.

Self care is more than just a bubble bath or meditating daily. It’s not just a regular massage, a yearly retreat or an afternoon in nature. It can be all of these things and more! Or something completely different.

For me it’s regular massage and facials, daily essential oils, good books, music, hiking in nature, meditation, time with Andrew and my friends, and a glass of champagne + raw chocolate whenever I feel like it!

The thing is, you get to decide what self care is for you. It’s different for everyone.

But there is one thing that you absolutely must have for effective self care.

S E L F  L O V E

Why is this so damn important?

Because without it, whatever you’re self care rituals are, they won’t be as meaningful.

If you’re doing this ‘self care thing’ because it’s what you ‘should’ be doing or what you’ve been told to do, it’s likely not coming from a place of love and care. You’ll be less likely to be consistent and more likely to self-sabotage.

Self care is not just another item on your to do list. It’s a non-negotiable that refills your mind, body and soul in a way nothing else can.

So when you put your self care rituals in place choose things that really do nurture and nourish your mind, body and soul. 

Make sure they are things that really fill you up and rejuvenate you on all levels.
And ask yourself…
Why am I doing it?
Is it coming from a place of self love?
Am I really looking after me?
Do I really feel like I deserve to be looked after on a deep level?

These questions can be hard to answer. Grab a piece of paper or your journal and see what comes up.

The old cliche – you can’t love anybody else if you don’t love yourself – has become a cliche for a reason! Because it’s absolutely true.

I’m here to tell you – you are totally worth it!

Looking after you on a deep level, consistently, allows you not only to feel great but to be there more fully for those you love. You simply cannot give from an empty cup so keep yours overflowing.

Become your own best friend and treat yourself as such – with love.

I’d love to know your self care rituals. And let me know who you go with the journaling questions too!

Love and Peace, Dee xxx

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The COAL Concept

The COAL Concept

I wanted to share with you a concept that my Doctor told me about last year. It’s called COAL and I think it’s a really helpful way to look at things.

So, what is C O A L?

Well, it’s an acronym that stands for Curiousity Openness Acceptance Love. And it’s a concept you can apply to your life each and every day.

I did an little bit of research (thank you Google) and found that the acronym was invented by Dr. Daniel Siegel to describe the qualities of mindfulness.

I think it describes the relationship you can build with yourself and the world around you. It can help you grow and lead a happier more fulfilled life by being more present and mindful.

Let’s talk about each one separately and how they can support you in your everyday life.

CURIOUSITY

A great way to approach life is with a sense of curiousity. Ask questions, look at things from different angles, get interested in what’s happening. Look at things without judgment but rather curiosity. When we do this we bring a very different feeling to our days.

OPENNESS

Be open to opportunities, new concepts, opinions and different ways of looking at things. When we are more open it leads to more choice and variety in our lives.

ACCEPTANCE

To accept the things that you don’t have control over and can’t change. To accept where you are right now. This doesn’t mean you have to stay where you are, however acceptance of your current situation allows you to decide not only where to go next but how.

LOVE

To cultivate self love. To give love. To do things with love. To allow yourself to receive love. Being kind and compassionate to yourself and others. When we come to life with love we allow more joy into our lives.

Each of these things all feed into each other too.

Curiousity brings with it more openness, acceptance and the ability for love.

Openness feeds our curiousity and helps us accept and grow as well as allow more love in our lives.

Acceptance allows us to cultivate love and therefore be more open and curious.

Love for yourself and others certainly allows us more acceptance and leads to more openness and curiousity.

I think of the COAL Concept as a form of self care. If we have a solid self-care foundation we can cope much better when life throws us unexpected stresses.

Are there any situations or areas of your life where you can apply the COAL concept right now?
Will it help you be more mindful and present?

Let me know in the comments below, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Love and Peace, Dee xxx

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My Guiding Word for 2018

My Guiding Word for 2018

Last year was certainly a challenging year. Full of highs and lows, challenges, successes and lots and lots of healing.

HEALING was my word for 2017 and when I chose it I certainly didn’t think the year ahead would bring so much.

As I reflect on all that was 2017 I can see there is still a lot to integrate and I look forward to allowing this to happen.

Life happens for us, rather than to us, and it shapes who we are. But it’s good to remember that who we are today doesn’t have to be who we become. We have the power to make any change we desire.

And as I welcome 2018 with open arms I set the intention of COURAGE in my life.

This is my guiding word, my beacon of light as I move forward in my life and my business.

 

courage is not the absence of fear

but the ability to act in spite of fear

– Mark Twain

 

 

Courage

In 2018 I strive for…

The courage to invite strength, resilience and confidence to reside within me.
The courage to be me and not worry about what people think.
The courage to share what I’ve been through and am going through in order to help others.
The courage to speak out about what I believe in. To speak up. To be heard. To not always take the back seat.
The courage to listen more, reflect more, learn more, change and grow.
The courage to heal more deeply.
The courage to listen to my intuition each and every day.
The courage to really tune in to my body, nourish it with the food it needs and nurture it in the best possible ways.
The courage to allow the energy and enthusiasm that is just under the surface to come out and shine.
The courage to laugh more. To cry more. To feel more.
The courage to be me, fully and unapologetically.

 

I invite all this and more into my life for 2018 in order to support you on a deeper level. Because when we commit to ourselves first it allows us to give more. And to give in a free, open and generous way.

Do you have a guiding word for the year ahead? I’d love to hear what it is. Share with me in the comments below.

Love and Peace, Dee xxx

What If You Can?

What If You Can?

What If You Can

What if you can make that change?
What if you can do that thing?
What if you can become that person?

What would that mean for you?

The truth is you can.

It may take time.
It may take persistence.

You get to choose.

You can make the decision.
To do or not to do.
To take action.
One step at a time.

How would it feel to live the life you desire?
How would it feel to be doing the things you desire?
How would it feel to be fully you?

When you live as the person you desire to be you become that person and not only is that great for you but everyone around you benefits.

When you allow yourself to be fully YOU that is a gift to the world.

That inspires real connection.
That inspires others to do the same.
That inspires true joy and happiness.

I urge you to grab a piece of paper and pen and answer the questions above.

Do your answers awaken a desire to let the world see who you really are?

It’s scary I know! But you can make a plan and start taking steps today.

Make that change.
Do that thing.
Become that person.

It is possible.

In health and happiness, Dee xxx

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Self Care and Grief

Self Care and Grief

I’m not really sure where to start.

I’ve written about aromatherapy for grief in the past but I wanted to talk about deep self care when you’re in the midst of grief, about how important it is and how it’s helped me.

When I ran my first maa retreat a few weeks ago I made some silly mistake and someone remarked ‘it’s good to see that you’re human’ …another reason I wanted to write this – we all have stuff to wade through in life and sometimes it’s important to share it so you know you’re not alone. We’re all human!

My father passed away on 24th April and the sense of sadness has been immense.

I’ve been lucky enough to have the support of Andrew (my husband for those you who don’t know) and many friends.

There have been hard days and not so hard days, days that seem close to normal and days where I can’t hold it together at all. There’s been many nights with little sleep and lots and lots of tears.

But through it all I’ve made sure to look after me. I’ve taken some extra time off. I’ve stayed in bed all morning, I’ve reduced my workload, I’ve said no to things.

And I’ve massively upped my self care.

Massages. Acupuncture. Therapy sessions with my fabulous doctor. Aromatherapy. I even attended a beautiful Midwinter Goddess Gathering because it felt like a very healing thing to do.

The fact that ongoing self care is super important has been reinforced. When you’re consistently looking after yourself you can cope much better with the the hard things life throws at you. And it’s easier to increase your self care when it’s necessary if you already have it in place.

Massage has helped calm and ground me.

Acupuncture has brought me balance on a physical and emotional level.

Therapy sessions with my doctor has helped me keep my perspective and process not only the loss of my father but other things that have been happening around that.

Aromatherapy has supported me too. In my blog post Grief and 10 Essential Oils to Help I talked about Basil, Bergamot, Cypress, Lavender, Neroli, Roman Chamomile, Rose, Rosemary, Rosewood and Ylang Ylang.

There’s a few ESSENTIAL OIILS I’d like to add to that list…

Amber – Amber is grounding, soothing and calming in times of stress. It helps to alleviate depression and anxiety. It enhances relaxation, bringing inner balance and peace. It also calms the busy mind, helping with insomnia and allowing a deeper sleep.

Frankincense – Frankincense is soothing, calming and centering. It helps calm and slow down breathing. It enhances spirituality, inner wisdom, emotional healing and hope. It helps to reduce stress, anxiety and nervous exhaustion.

Mandarin – Mandarin gives emotional strength and support, peacefulness and serenity. It is helpful for insomnia and restlessness. It is sedating to the nervous system and uplifts the spirits, making it excellent for depression, sadness, nervous tension, anxiety, panic and stress. It is balancing, enhancing gentleness and bringing joy and happiness to the heart.

Patchouli – Patchouli balances and integrates the energy between mind, body and spirit. It is great for anxiety and depression. It is very grounding and deeply calming, creating a true sense of inner peace. It is also a very gentle oil great for wisdom, laughter and love

Sandalwood – Sandalwood is centring, grounding and harmonising. It heals the soul, promotes tranquillity and is great for meditation. Great for self-love. It also helps create openness and understanding, promotes love and hope and is excellent for loneliness and overcoming isolation. It gives a feeling of stability and togetherness, providing comfort and healing in times of stress, depression and confusion. It also helps insomnia sufferers and is perfect for anyone who has a lot going on in their life.

Three of my favourite blends have been…

Amber, Rose and Mandarin

Sandalwood, Roman Chamomile and Bergamot

Frankincense, Rose and Mandarin

I find inhalation the best method of use for grief
  • Just place a few drops on a tissue to inhale as you need to
  • add 10 – 15 drops to your oil burner to infuse the aroma throughout the room
  • place a drop on your pillow to help with sleep and rest.

 

This is just what has helped me over the last couple of months…it may be different for you. It’s hard. It’s exhausting. And it’s definitely an ongoing process.

Remember, whatever feels right for you is ok. And if you are going through the grieving process and feel you are not coping please seek professional advice, there is always someone who can help you through it.

You can also find some helpful info about grief here and coping with grief here on the GriefLink website.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Head to the comments below and let me know what’s helped you get through the grieving process.

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In health and happiness, Dee xxx

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