What if you can make that change?
What if you can do that thing?
What if you can become that person?
What would that mean for you?
The truth is you can.
It may take time.
It may take persistence.
You get to choose.
You can make the decision.
To do or not to do.
To take action.
One step at a time.
How would it feel to live the life you desire?
How would it feel to be doing the things you desire?
How would it feel to be fully you?
When you live as the person you desire to be you become that person and not only is that great for you but everyone around you benefits.
When you allow yourself to be fully YOU that is a gift to the world.
That inspires real connection.
That inspires others to do the same.
That inspires true joy and happiness.
I urge you to grab a piece of paper and pen and answer the questions above.
Do your answers awaken a desire to let the world see who you really are?
It’s scary I know! But you can make a plan and start taking steps today.
Make that change.
Do that thing.
Become that person.
It is possible.
In health and happiness, Dee xxx
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I’m not really sure where to start.
I’ve written about aromatherapy for grief in the past but I wanted to talk about deep self care when you’re in the midst of grief, about how important it is and how it’s helped me.
When I ran my first maa retreat a few weeks ago I made some silly mistake and someone remarked ‘it’s good to see that you’re human’ …another reason I wanted to write this – we all have stuff to wade through in life and sometimes it’s important to share it so you know you’re not alone. We’re all human!
My father passed away on 24th April and the sense of sadness has been immense.
I’ve been lucky enough to have the support of Andrew (my husband for those you who don’t know) and many friends.
There have been hard days and not so hard days, days that seem close to normal and days where I can’t hold it together at all. There’s been many nights with little sleep and lots and lots of tears.
But through it all I’ve made sure to look after me. I’ve taken some extra time off. I’ve stayed in bed all morning, I’ve reduced my workload, I’ve said no to things.
And I’ve massively upped my self care.
Massages. Acupuncture. Therapy sessions with my fabulous doctor. Aromatherapy. I even attended a beautiful Midwinter Goddess Gathering because it felt like a very healing thing to do.
The fact that ongoing self care is super important has been reinforced. When you’re consistently looking after yourself you can cope much better with the the hard things life throws at you. And it’s easier to increase your self care when it’s necessary if you already have it in place.
Massage has helped calm and ground me.
Acupuncture has brought me balance on a physical and emotional level.
Therapy sessions with my doctor has helped me keep my perspective and process not only the loss of my father but other things that have been happening around that.
Aromatherapy has supported me too. In my blog post Grief and 10 Essential Oils to Help I talked about Basil, Bergamot, Cypress, Lavender, Neroli, Roman Chamomile, Rose, Rosemary, Rosewood and Ylang Ylang.
There’s a few ESSENTIAL OIILS I’d like to add to that list…
Amber – Amber is grounding, soothing and calming in times of stress. It helps to alleviate depression and anxiety. It enhances relaxation, bringing inner balance and peace. It also calms the busy mind, helping with insomnia and allowing a deeper sleep.
Frankincense – Frankincense is soothing, calming and centering. It helps calm and slow down breathing. It enhances spirituality, inner wisdom, emotional healing and hope. It helps to reduce stress, anxiety and nervous exhaustion.
Mandarin – Mandarin gives emotional strength and support, peacefulness and serenity. It is helpful for insomnia and restlessness. It is sedating to the nervous system and uplifts the spirits, making it excellent for depression, sadness, nervous tension, anxiety, panic and stress. It is balancing, enhancing gentleness and bringing joy and happiness to the heart.
Patchouli – Patchouli balances and integrates the energy between mind, body and spirit. It is great for anxiety and depression. It is very grounding and deeply calming, creating a true sense of inner peace. It is also a very gentle oil great for wisdom, laughter and love
Sandalwood – Sandalwood is centring, grounding and harmonising. It heals the soul, promotes tranquillity and is great for meditation. Great for self-love. It also helps create openness and understanding, promotes love and hope and is excellent for loneliness and overcoming isolation. It gives a feeling of stability and togetherness, providing comfort and healing in times of stress, depression and confusion. It also helps insomnia sufferers and is perfect for anyone who has a lot going on in their life.
Three of my favourite blends have been…
Amber, Rose and Mandarin
Sandalwood, Roman Chamomile and Bergamot
Frankincense, Rose and Mandarin
I find inhalation the best method of use for grief
- Just place a few drops on a tissue to inhale as you need to
- add 10 – 15 drops to your oil burner to infuse the aroma throughout the room
- place a drop on your pillow to help with sleep and rest.
This is just what has helped me over the last couple of months…it may be different for you. It’s hard. It’s exhausting. And it’s definitely an ongoing process.
Remember, whatever feels right for you is ok. And if you are going through the grieving process and feel you are not coping please seek professional advice, there is always someone who can help you through it.
You can also find some helpful info about grief here and coping with grief here on the GriefLink website.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Head to the comments below and let me know what’s helped you get through the grieving process.
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In health and happiness, Dee xxx
On my recent getaway to Cradle Mountain with Andrew – hubby and Mr maa for those of you who don’t him – I was struck by just how important it is to be surrounded by people who support and believe in you without question.
I’m not sure how silly this is going to sound, but here goes…
It was a beautiful day in Cradle Mountain, we were on holidays, breakfast and coffee were enjoyed and we ventured to Dove Lake for a hike. We were going to go to Marions Lookout but on a whim we decided to do Hansons Peak instead (we’d done Marions in the past).
It looked like quite a climb, but surely it wasn’t as steep as it looked! Turns out parts of it were quite steep with long drops over the side! And I got scared!!!
I had a mini anxiety attack at one point where the path was rocky and I couldn’t look to my right as I was afraid of falling off the edge…I just kept going, looking straight ahead and trying not to freak out!
Ok, made that bit! Phew!
And then a steep rock loomed above. There was a chain to hold onto and pull yourself up. I started up, following Andrew slowly. And then we came to a flat rock face with very few foot holes…and short legs weren’t helping!!!
I completely lost it – there was no way I was going to be able to get up up this bit! My whole body was shaking and my head was telling me this was as far as I was going – I couldn’t wait to be back down the bottom. I literally couldn’t move!
And this is when my one man support team stepped up to the plate, believing that I could do it and patiently waiting while my panic and anxiety dissipated. I believe that took about 15 minutes!
Needless to say I made it up that rock and to the top of Hansons Peak and boy was it worth it!
Check out the view…
There was a point when I truly didn’t think I could do it but I had someone by my side that believed I could – sometimes that’s what we need.
Actually we need to be surrounded by supportive people who believe in us all the time. This is what really hit me while sitting atop Hansons Peak taking photos of the stunningly beautiful view.
CREATE A CIRCLE OF SUPPORT
People who lift us up, cheer us on and celebrate us are essential to our wellbeing. We need to let people do this for us. As we do for them. We don’t have to do all the giving.
Accepting help from someone is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give them.
Take a look around you.
Do you have the support and love that you need?
If not what are some steps you can take to bring that into your life.
And how can you truly nurture those that you do have in your life?
I’d love to hear what you think…head to the comments below and let me know your thoughts.
In health and happiness, Dee xxx
The last couple of weeks have been exhausting to say the least. Yes, there are people out there having worse weeks for sure and that’s important to remember. But it’s also important to remember that if you feel like you’ve had a tiring week, then for you, you have! It’s time to acknowledge it and look after you.
Rather than ditching self care, step up your self care to meet what’s going on in your life.
Often self care is the first thing to go when we’re busy, stressed and overwhelmed. It slips down the list because there are ‘too many things to do first’. But I’m here to tell you that this is the exact time that it’s super important to take time for you.
JUST. DO. IT.
MAKE. IT. HAPPEN.
Because if you don’t you’ll just spiral into more overwhelm, stress and tiredness, even anxiety and depression. And ultimately burnout. Which can lead to an array of health issues.
You’ve probably been there before…and it wasn’t worth it was it?
It takes practise but next time you catch yourself putting your self care second, stop and review the situation. Make some time for yourself before it’s too late.
Block out some time in your calendar for you. Stick to it just as you would if it was your best friend. Ask for help if you need it. Remember just how important it is for your wellbeing.
The washing, the ironing, the shopping, the cooking, all the things that ‘need to the done’ aren’t going anywhere…they can be put second but your self care simply can not.
The best time for self care is when there isn’t time.
If it seems there is no perfect time to stop, then that time is NOW!
Do you practise consistent self care? Head to the comments below and let me know.
In health and happiness, Dee.
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Well hello there 2017. I’m excited to see what you have in store for me.
I had a lovely week off between Christmas and New Year. Since I’ve been back at work I’ve been setting my goals and intentions and doing some planning for 2017.
I’m setting the intention for HEALING.
At the beginning of each year I usually choose a guiding word, sometimes 2 or 3, to set the tone for the year ahead.
This year I had a few floating around in my mind – give, self-esteem, strength and confidence. I couldn’t quite settle on one.
Then it came to me, it was all down to HEALING.
Healing for myself. Helping those close to me heal. Guiding my clients to discover their own healing process.
Healing on all levels – mind, body and soul. Bringing each aspect back into alignment.
I’ve seen some friends go through major trauma and changes recently. I did what I could at the time even though it didn’t always feel like enough and I’d like to continue to help in 2017.
I know some of my clients are also going through major shifts. I’m supporting them, through my health and lifestyle coaching, to create a plan for 2017 that works for them.
And I’ve personally had 2 things occur in the last 12 months that have made me question so many things about myself – my value, my self worth, my place in the world. I’m taking steps to work through it – Kineseology and a very intuitive Acupuncturist is helping a lot. More talking is on the agenda. More self care. More mindset shifts. More focus on the positive. One amazing thing is that my move to Canberra – which on reflection was huge and overwhelming as well as exciting – has really shown me how wonderful and caring people are and maybe I deserve that.
If healing is something you can relate to. If it’s something tugging at your heart I want you to know…
Healing is a process.
Healing is different for everyone.
Healing takes time.
So 2017, along with healing I’m starting to think bigger and broader. I can feel exciting things in the air for my business and my life.
Do you have a guiding word for 2017? Head to the comments below and let me know.
In health and happiness, Dee xxx
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