I’m not really sure where to start.
I’ve written about aromatherapy for grief in the past but I wanted to talk about deep self care when you’re in the midst of grief, about how important it is and how it’s helped me.
When I ran my first maa retreat a few weeks ago I made some silly mistake and someone remarked ‘it’s good to see that you’re human’ …another reason I wanted to write this – we all have stuff to wade through in life and sometimes it’s important to share it so you know you’re not alone. We’re all human!
My father passed away on 24th April and the sense of sadness has been immense.
I’ve been lucky enough to have the support of Andrew (my husband for those you who don’t know) and many friends.
There have been hard days and not so hard days, days that seem close to normal and days where I can’t hold it together at all. There’s been many nights with little sleep and lots and lots of tears.
But through it all I’ve made sure to look after me. I’ve taken some extra time off. I’ve stayed in bed all morning, I’ve reduced my workload, I’ve said no to things.
And I’ve massively upped my self care.
Massages. Acupuncture. Therapy sessions with my fabulous doctor. Aromatherapy. I even attended a beautiful Midwinter Goddess Gathering because it felt like a very healing thing to do.
The fact that ongoing self care is super important has been reinforced. When you’re consistently looking after yourself you can cope much better with the the hard things life throws at you. And it’s easier to increase your self care when it’s necessary if you already have it in place.
Massage has helped calm and ground me.
Acupuncture has brought me balance on a physical and emotional level.
Therapy sessions with my doctor has helped me keep my perspective and process not only the loss of my father but other things that have been happening around that.
Aromatherapy has supported me too. In my blog post Grief and 10 Essential Oils to Help I talked about Basil, Bergamot, Cypress, Lavender, Neroli, Roman Chamomile, Rose, Rosemary, Rosewood and Ylang Ylang.
There’s a few ESSENTIAL OIILS I’d like to add to that list…
Amber – Amber is grounding, soothing and calming in times of stress. It helps to alleviate depression and anxiety. It enhances relaxation, bringing inner balance and peace. It also calms the busy mind, helping with insomnia and allowing a deeper sleep.
Frankincense – Frankincense is soothing, calming and centering. It helps calm and slow down breathing. It enhances spirituality, inner wisdom, emotional healing and hope. It helps to reduce stress, anxiety and nervous exhaustion.
Mandarin – Mandarin gives emotional strength and support, peacefulness and serenity. It is helpful for insomnia and restlessness. It is sedating to the nervous system and uplifts the spirits, making it excellent for depression, sadness, nervous tension, anxiety, panic and stress. It is balancing, enhancing gentleness and bringing joy and happiness to the heart.
Patchouli – Patchouli balances and integrates the energy between mind, body and spirit. It is great for anxiety and depression. It is very grounding and deeply calming, creating a true sense of inner peace. It is also a very gentle oil great for wisdom, laughter and love
Sandalwood – Sandalwood is centring, grounding and harmonising. It heals the soul, promotes tranquillity and is great for meditation. Great for self-love. It also helps create openness and understanding, promotes love and hope and is excellent for loneliness and overcoming isolation. It gives a feeling of stability and togetherness, providing comfort and healing in times of stress, depression and confusion. It also helps insomnia sufferers and is perfect for anyone who has a lot going on in their life.
Three of my favourite blends have been…
Amber, Rose and Mandarin
Sandalwood, Roman Chamomile and Bergamot
Frankincense, Rose and Mandarin
I find inhalation the best method of use for grief
- Just place a few drops on a tissue to inhale as you need to
- add 10 – 15 drops to your oil burner to infuse the aroma throughout the room
- place a drop on your pillow to help with sleep and rest.
This is just what has helped me over the last couple of months…it may be different for you. It’s hard. It’s exhausting. And it’s definitely an ongoing process.
Remember, whatever feels right for you is ok. And if you are going through the grieving process and feel you are not coping please seek professional advice, there is always someone who can help you through it.
You can also find some helpful info about grief here and coping with grief here on the GriefLink website.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Head to the comments below and let me know what’s helped you get through the grieving process.
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In health and happiness, Dee xxx
On my recent getaway to Cradle Mountain with Andrew – hubby and Mr maa for those of you who don’t him – I was struck by just how important it is to be surrounded by people who support and believe in you without question.
I’m not sure how silly this is going to sound, but here goes…
It was a beautiful day in Cradle Mountain, we were on holidays, breakfast and coffee were enjoyed and we ventured to Dove Lake for a hike. We were going to go to Marions Lookout but on a whim we decided to do Hansons Peak instead (we’d done Marions in the past).
It looked like quite a climb, but surely it wasn’t as steep as it looked! Turns out parts of it were quite steep with long drops over the side! And I got scared!!!
I had a mini anxiety attack at one point where the path was rocky and I couldn’t look to my right as I was afraid of falling off the edge…I just kept going, looking straight ahead and trying not to freak out!
Ok, made that bit! Phew!
And then a steep rock loomed above. There was a chain to hold onto and pull yourself up. I started up, following Andrew slowly. And then we came to a flat rock face with very few foot holes…and short legs weren’t helping!!!
I completely lost it – there was no way I was going to be able to get up up this bit! My whole body was shaking and my head was telling me this was as far as I was going – I couldn’t wait to be back down the bottom. I literally couldn’t move!
And this is when my one man support team stepped up to the plate, believing that I could do it and patiently waiting while my panic and anxiety dissipated. I believe that took about 15 minutes!
Needless to say I made it up that rock and to the top of Hansons Peak and boy was it worth it!
Check out the view…
There was a point when I truly didn’t think I could do it but I had someone by my side that believed I could – sometimes that’s what we need.
Actually we need to be surrounded by supportive people who believe in us all the time. This is what really hit me while sitting atop Hansons Peak taking photos of the stunningly beautiful view.
CREATE A CIRCLE OF SUPPORT
People who lift us up, cheer us on and celebrate us are essential to our wellbeing. We need to let people do this for us. As we do for them. We don’t have to do all the giving.
Accepting help from someone is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give them.
Take a look around you.
Do you have the support and love that you need?
If not what are some steps you can take to bring that into your life.
And how can you truly nurture those that you do have in your life?
I’d love to hear what you think…head to the comments below and let me know your thoughts.
In health and happiness, Dee xxx
The last couple of weeks have been exhausting to say the least. Yes, there are people out there having worse weeks for sure and that’s important to remember. But it’s also important to remember that if you feel like you’ve had a tiring week, then for you, you have! It’s time to acknowledge it and look after you.
Rather than ditching self care, step up your self care to meet what’s going on in your life.
Often self care is the first thing to go when we’re busy, stressed and overwhelmed. It slips down the list because there are ‘too many things to do first’. But I’m here to tell you that this is the exact time that it’s super important to take time for you.
JUST. DO. IT.
MAKE. IT. HAPPEN.
Because if you don’t you’ll just spiral into more overwhelm, stress and tiredness, even anxiety and depression. And ultimately burnout. Which can lead to an array of health issues.
You’ve probably been there before…and it wasn’t worth it was it?
It takes practise but next time you catch yourself putting your self care second, stop and review the situation. Make some time for yourself before it’s too late.
Block out some time in your calendar for you. Stick to it just as you would if it was your best friend. Ask for help if you need it. Remember just how important it is for your wellbeing.
The washing, the ironing, the shopping, the cooking, all the things that ‘need to the done’ aren’t going anywhere…they can be put second but your self care simply can not.
The best time for self care is when there isn’t time.
If it seems there is no perfect time to stop, then that time is NOW!
Do you practise consistent self care? Head to the comments below and let me know.
In health and happiness, Dee.
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Well hello there 2017. I’m excited to see what you have in store for me.
I had a lovely week off between Christmas and New Year. Since I’ve been back at work I’ve been setting my goals and intentions and doing some planning for 2017.
I’m setting the intention for HEALING.
At the beginning of each year I usually choose a guiding word, sometimes 2 or 3, to set the tone for the year ahead.
This year I had a few floating around in my mind – give, self-esteem, strength and confidence. I couldn’t quite settle on one.
Then it came to me, it was all down to HEALING.
Healing for myself. Helping those close to me heal. Guiding my clients to discover their own healing process.
Healing on all levels – mind, body and soul. Bringing each aspect back into alignment.
I’ve seen some friends go through major trauma and changes recently. I did what I could at the time even though it didn’t always feel like enough and I’d like to continue to help in 2017.
I know some of my clients are also going through major shifts. I’m supporting them, through my health and lifestyle coaching, to create a plan for 2017 that works for them.
And I’ve personally had 2 things occur in the last 12 months that have made me question so many things about myself – my value, my self worth, my place in the world. I’m taking steps to work through it – Kineseology and a very intuitive Acupuncturist is helping a lot. More talking is on the agenda. More self care. More mindset shifts. More focus on the positive. One amazing thing is that my move to Canberra – which on reflection was huge and overwhelming as well as exciting – has really shown me how wonderful and caring people are and maybe I deserve that.
If healing is something you can relate to. If it’s something tugging at your heart I want you to know…
Healing is a process.
Healing is different for everyone.
Healing takes time.
So 2017, along with healing I’m starting to think bigger and broader. I can feel exciting things in the air for my business and my life.
Do you have a guiding word for 2017? Head to the comments below and let me know.
In health and happiness, Dee xxx
PS if you’d love to work with me to create YOUR 2017. YOUR WAY. Head over to my Facebook Page for details or email me at email@example.com
Well hello there…it’s been a while!
Blogging has taken a back seat as I’ve been working on my business, moving house (again!) and much more.
It’s been a big year, both on a personal and business level. Unsettling and upsetting and even painful in some ways but ultimately fun, exciting and expansive.
After attending, and speaking at, the absolutely beaufitul Curious Hearts Retreat by Becca Posterino last weekend I thought it was the perfect time to start sharing with you again.
Last Sunday was the first time I’ve ever attended a day retreat and it was amazing. To stop and just be was just what my soul needed. And to share it with 10 other lovely women was special. There was such a beautiful energy present.
The day began with yoga – I haven’t done much yoga since moving to Canberra and my body loved it!
Becca then led us through a seated meditation – WOW! What insights! The main message that came through was LOVE MORE, GIVE MORE and FORGIVE. The perfect message for me as 2016 draws to a close.
Next up we took what Becca had told us about meditation and moved into a walking meditation. How lovely…a walk in nature around Lake Burley Griffin. Being fully present the colours of nature came alive – the green of the trees and surrounding hills, the bright blue of the sky against the beautiful white wispy clouds. It was so refreshing.
After a scrumptious vegan lunch we took some time to journal. This isn’t something I do often and again some lovely insights came through. My vision for 2017 is slowly coming together and it’s all about ease and flow and acceptance.
Then, I got to speak a little about my passion, Aromatherapy. This was the first time I’ve spoken to a group of people, and while I know I have a lot to improve upon, I really enjoyed it. I created a Curious Hearts signature blend that I shared with everyone as well as a little bit about blending and what to look for when purchasing essential oils.
We finished the day with a Yin yoga session which was just perfect.
I felt so rejuvenated and balanced. It was a huge reminder to take time out more regularly. I always say that consistency is key to creating the lifestyle you desire and this goes for STOPPING as well as DOING.
Have you been to a yoga retreat? Head to the comments below and tell me about your experience.
In health and happiness, Dee.
The weekend before last I attended Leonie Dawson’s Shining Academy Business Retreat here in Canberra.
It was 2 days of inspiration, positivity and soaking up the beautiful energies of over 100 women who attended.
As I was going over my notes from the weekend I realised that even though the focus was on business, everything also related to life. So with this in mind I thought I’d share my top Life Lessons from The Shining Academy Business Retreat.
10 LIFE LESSONS FROM THE SHINING ACADEMY BIZ REREAT
- Doing more is not always better. Do more of what works or feels good for you and less of what isn’t working in all areas of your life.
- Be curious and open to opportunity. New discoveries of any kind can add joy and meaning to your life.
- Commit to YOU. Commit to your growth. Commit to your health and wellbeing. Commit to your self care. Do something every day that moves you towards the life you desire.
- Listen. What are the people around you saying? What is your internal dialogue like? How are these words affecting you? Are they useful, positive and supportive?
- It’s ok to say NO. It’s ok to say YES. It’s ok to do what’s best for you.
- Focus on what matters to YOU. Let go of what doesn’t matter to you.
- Connection is key. Build a community of like-minded friends who ‘get you’ and who you genuinely care about. Have a go-to healer/therapist/coach/mentor that’s right for you in specific situations. Get support when you need it.
- Give generously and genuinely from your heart. Giving is one of the most beautiful ways you can bring more joy to your life.
- You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with. Make sure they are special to you! Do you aspire to be like the people you spend time with? Do they inspire you? Uplift you? If so, yay! If not it may be time to gently let go of some people in your life or see a lot less of them.
- Have gratitude and show it whenever you can. What you focus on grows, so pay attention to all the good things in your life, big and small. Plus, saying thank you to someone can make a huge difference to their day.
There was so much more goodness shared and realised during the Retreat, both for maa organics and me!
I’d love to know your thoughts on my 10 Life Lesssons and as begin to integrate and implement what I learnt I’d also love to hear what you think I could incorporate into maa organics to better look after you.
Head to the comments below and let me know.
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In Health and Happiness, Dee xxx
Image from Leonie Dawson.
Today I thought I’d share with you the 3 supplements that I regularly take to keep my skin looking and feeling great.
For those of you who don’t know I spent years struggling with bad skin conditions for many reasons.
Over time I’ve found that taking certain supplements really made a difference in maintaining the health of my skin.
3 Supplements For Glowing Skin
There others I take from time to time, but these are my 3 that I always come back to for looking and feeling great!
Vitamin C is a great anti-oxidant. It is known for its anti-ageing effect, It helps increase elastin, tissue growth and collagen production. It aids healing.
I find my skin is clearer and feels much better when I’m taking it.
Plus it’s great for your immune system!
The body doesn’t make vitamin C so we need to include it in our diet. It can be found in fresh fruit and vegetables including oranges, lemons, limes, berries, pineapple, kiwi fruit, capsicum, broccoli, tomato and many more. As a supplement, the powdered form is excellent as it is more easily absorbed into the body.
Zinc is excellent for wound healing. It is an important mineral for the maintenance of healthy skin. It can help relieve skin disorders such as dermatitis and acne. It decreases the risk of skin infections and helps skin heal quickly.
I find my skin is consistently clearer when I am taking zinc and if I do get a minor breakout, eczema attack or dry itchy scalp it clears up quicker with zinc supplementation.
Zinc is also needed for proper immune system function and maintaining vision, taste and smell.
Fresh oysters, pumpkin and sunflower seeds, rolled oats, ginger, raw cacao and almond, brazil and cashew nuts are all a source of zinc. As a supplement you can choose a liquid or tablet form. I’ve found both to be of benefit.
Omega 3 Fatty Acids
I love my fish oils! – great for dry itchy irritated skin, dry and/or flaky scalp. It helps decrease inflammation, improve hydration and maintain healthy sebum production.
I find my skin is much smoother, more hydrated and gets less irritated when I’m keeping up my Omega 3’s!
And don’t forget some of the other issues it addresses like high blood pressure, fluid retention, cardiovascular health and joint pain.
Some dietary sources include flaxseed oil, walnuts, oily fish (eg salmon, tuna), scallops, soybeans, tofu, broccoli, cabbage and kale. Get that green smoothie happening! As a supplement you can buy it as a liquid or in gel capsules. The gel capsules are much easier to take!
I’d love to hear what supplements have helped your skin. Pop down to the comments below and let me know.
In health and happiness, Dee
Please note: This information is based on my personal experiences in my own life and with my clients along with my own research. It is not to be taken as an individual treatment plan or as a replacement for medical treatment. Please see your health care professional for advice relating to your specific concerns and conditions.
Today I want to share with you 4 natural beauty tips you can add to your life right now!
These are part of my wellbeing and in addition to using organic skincare.
So here they are…
My 4 Natural Beauty Tips…
1. Stay hydrated
I don’t know about you but I feel much better when I keep hydrated. I have more energy. It helps flush out toxins in the body and keeps skin feeling clean and looking clear and smooth.
how? keep a bottle of water with you at all times, find a herbal tea you love or get super-hydrated with coconut water.
2. Eat nourishing foods
Our bodies love us when we feed them well! Eating a healthy diet gives us energy and clear vibrant skin. What we put into our bodies not only shows on the outside but we feel great on the inside too.
how? experiment and find out what foods make you feel good. I suggest eating as much fresh, natural and unprocessed food as you can! Try juicing, green smoothies, organic, raw sugar free snacks…the list is limitless. Listen to your body – it knows!
3. Exercise regularly
Move your body. Energy makes energy, so get up and do something. Your skin also benefits greatly from exercise. Sweating out toxins and impurities will give your skin a healthy glow.
how? Do something you enjoy. Do it often. Be gentle and kind to your body.
4. De-stress daily
Take some time each day to let go of any stress, relax and rest your mind, body and soul. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.
how? Practise self-care. Do something for YOU each and every day. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. Use essential oils, sit in the sun for 10-15 minutes, do a meditation, enjoy a cup of herbal tea, breathe deeply, Find something you love and stop to embrace it.
These are the four things that have made a difference to my skin and to the way I feel in general.
I don’t always do them all every day and that’s ok! It’s a continual process of tweaking my self-care and doing what feels right.
If you are doing some or all of these things use this as a reminder to keep it up or make any changes you need to.
If you’re not doing these why not try adding one or more of them and see how much better you feel.
I’d love to know which one is your favourite or perhaps you have one of your own to share. Pop down to the comments below and let me know.
In health and happiness, Dee xxx
As I return to blogging and sending out regular newsletters (sign up below if you’d like to receive news and specials delivered to your inbox) I wanted to share a few words with you about the last few months along with a little farewell letter to Queensland.
The last few months have been an emotional and somewhat strange time in my life.
Exciting, sad, happy, a little overwhelming at times! Not really working and not really being on holidays was a bit unsettling.
As my love and I drove from our home in Far North Queensland to Canberra there was a gradual letting go of the old as we invited in the new.
Not long after we arrived in Canberra our house in Queensland sold after 2.5 years on the market! Yes! That long!!!! We had a 7 week settlement period. Then it got delayed. Twice. It felt like one final thing to reinforce that we had made the right decision.
Everything about Queensland seemed heavy and weary. It was time to completely let go.
And so I wrote a little farewell letter…
I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for our time together. During our 12 years I learnt a lot, I grew, I met some amazing people, there were many fun times. I changed – a lot!
But now, despite your warm, sunny disposition I am ready to let go of you for good, to breathe in the cool crisp fresh new air of beautiful Canberra, to embrace new opportunities, make new friends and begin an exciting new chapter.
Out with the old and in with the new.
With love, Dee xxx
Everything about our new life feels, well, just right.
There is a sense of ease, of support, of openness. I know this is often the case with new adventures – that sense of excitement as you settle into your new reality, your new normal. And, lets be real here, life will always have it’s ups and downs.
Even though I know in my heart this move is the best decision ever, over the last few months I’ve felt overwhelm, fatigue, anxiety, frustration, worry, apprehension and fear. But I’ve also felt happiness, love, support, joy, butterflies in the tummy anticipation and absolute excitement.
And one thing I want to say is that it’s ok to feel all of those things. It’s ok to feel whatever you’re feeling. The important thing here is to acknowledge it.
How you’re feeling right now doesn’t define you. It’s a moment in time and it will pass.
Life is is a process of letting go of what you no longer need or desire to make room for the new, room for growth, room for discovery, while keeping what works best for you at that moment in time.
On that note I’ll leave you with a quote I’m loving at the moment…
“your life does not get better by chance.
It gets better by change”
– Jim Rohn
I’d love to hear your thoughts on letting go and change. Pop down to the comments below and let me know.
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In health and happiness, Dee xxx