Grief can be IS such a hard thing to cope with

and we all have our own way of dealing with it

I’ve been thinking about grief a lot lately. Mostly because my two very precious pussycats passed away within six weeks of each other late last year and partly because my acupuncturist brought to my attention that my persistent cough would probably go away when I {finally} sell my house, which is proving to be a long process. I’m sure there’s a lesson in that! He wasn’t aware of my cats dying when he said this. He understandingly saw the annoying situation of not yet selling our house as giving me grief.

The respiratory system symbolises grief so it really is no wonder my cough won’t go away. I’ve lost 4 of my fur babies in the last 5 years. Yes, they had the absolute best life a cat could have but it doesn’t stop the hurt and heartache of not having them around anymore. It sucks big time and that’s all there is to it.

Now, I know some people might be reading this and thinking ‘they’re cats, you’ll move on, get another one in time, it’s not like they were humans’.  I type that with tears streaming down my face…

To some people the death of a pet might not seem much but to others it can be one of the most painful things imaginable.

That’s the thing about grief, it’s different for everyone. But it’s part of everyones life so I thought, even though it can be upsetting to think and write about, I’d share some things that might be helpful.

What I know from experience is this…

Grief is such a hard thing to cope with and we all have our own way of dealing with it.  We not only grieve when someone we love dies, but at the end of a relationship or a chapter in our lives or when a big change occurs.

We can also feel like something or someone is ‘giving us grief’ in our lives. Have you ever heard someone say ‘that person/thing/situation is giving me grief for not doing/being {insert applicable term and reason for feeling this way}’.

Some of the ways to work through grief include (but are certainly not limited to) crying, meditating, writing, drawing, photography, talking. Do whatever helps you and most importantly look after yourself, nurture yourself, eat well and try to get a good nights sleep or rest when you can.

Another very helpful tool is Aromatherapy. Choose whichever essential oils feel right for you.

Here are my top ten suggestions.

Essential Oils for Grief

Basil – very useful for anxiety, fear, confusion and hysteria, it helps relieve fatigue and gives strength, purpose and clarity to the mind.  It provides protection during change when nervous exhaustion, vulnerability or low immune system may be present.

Bergamot – is very soothing, strengthening and balancing to the emotions.  It helps in letting go and relieving loneliness, sadness and grief.

Cypress – Helps with painful transitions like bereavement or the end of a close relationship.  It is great when you constantly feel like bursting into tears.  It enhances the process of letting go and acceptance.  It strengthens an overburdened nervous system.  Is very soothing and cleansing for the spirit.  It provides a deep sense of calm.

Lavender – helps to alleviate depression, stress, shock, panic and hysteria.  It is calming, balancing, sedating to the nervous system and enhances spirituality.

Neroli – one of the best anti-depressant oils, it is calming and soothing, stabilising and strengthening.  Enhancing peace and love it helps overcome sorrow, trauma and loneliness.

Roman Chamomile – deeply soothing, calming and healing especially when you are feeling sensitive.  Great for an overactive mind, eases worry and helps with insomnia.

Rose – is comforting for the heart and soothing to the emotions. It helps ease sorrow, emotional stress, grief, loss, loneliness and sadness.  It nurtures the mind, body and soul.

Rosemary – a great tonic for the nervous system. Very strengthening, centering and stabilising. It helps reduce sadness and restore clarity.

Rosewood – has a calming, yet uplifting effect which is great for emotional exhaustion.  It is perfect for healing of the spirit and soul, bringing balance and an open heart.

Ylang Ylang – helps ease severe tension and associated depression.  It enhances tenderness, acceptance and serenity.  It gives you a lift, helping to restore confidence and a passion for life.

Other essential oils for grief include vetiver, pine, melissa, marjoram, palmarosa, grapefruit, petitgrain…or whatever you are attracted to.

I find inhalation the best method of use for grief

inhale directly from the bottle,

place a few drops on a tissue to inhale as you need to,

add 10 – 15 drops to your oil burner to infuse the aroma throughout the room, or

place a drop on your pillow to help with sleep and rest.

Using essential oils in the bath is also very helpful –  add a few drops to a warm bath, making sure you thoroughly disperse them in the water.

I hope this information has been helpful for you.

Remember, whatever it is you’re feeling is ok. And if you are going through the grieving process and feel you are not coping please seek professional advice, there is always someone who can help you through it.

You can also find some helpful info about grief here and coping with grief here on the GriefLink website. 

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Head to the comments below and let me know what’s helped you get through the grieving process.

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In health and happiness, Dee xxx

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